Cognitive therapy: Pros and Cons

I love cognitive therapy for some reasons. The most basic reason is that it works at the level of cognition first. I think cognitive level is the one that therapists should work on because it is so rational that our thoughts affect our behaviours through affecting our feelings. This is the main reasoning in cognitive therapy indeed.

So as Aaron Beck stated it first: our thoughts affect our feelings and they determine how we behave.

It may sound a little too simple and obvious at first but the truth is sometimes very simple. Automatic thoughts are unavoidable but not unchangeable. They can be altered through working on the core beliefs. This all sound very rational too me.

Also I like it being to the point. If you have a specific problem (like a specific phobia) it does wonders in reasonable time.

Of course it has some aspects I do not like much. It is too strict in theory and needs to be balanced in that way with a flexible attitude of the therapist.

I believe cognitive therapy is very powerful for specific problems but it would be better if used in an eclectic approach in some cases. Many people are suffering from specific things like having panic attacks or having a some kind of phobia. Cognitive therapy is just the right choice for those.

However, there are many people who wants to be in therapy because they want to know more of themselves without having a specific problem to be dealt with. At that point cognitive therapy isn't enough by itself. Therefore, I plan to use it with another type of therapy which is called Existential Therapy.
God only knows what will happen in the future but this is the plan for now. :)

Peace...

Welcoming Ali Mert

I'm a fresh auntie. My nephew Ali Mert has just born at the end of January. As a young auntie I can't compare being a mom and being an aunt but I can talk about being an aunt.

It's like a rehearsal of being a mother and it's much better because I don't have to feed him and don't have to nurture him. Just loving him is enough for being a good aunt. That's a bliss. :)

Babies are too cute that you cannot hate them when you get real close. They may sound annoying from a distance but when you smell that baby smell it changes everything. I used to hate children and then it changed a bit with the projects and work that I've done. However, now I just can't get enough of my nephew. I think that's because this is the first time I've been this close to a baby for so long. His skin, his smell, his voice... all that make him irresistable! :)

The picture above depicts fresh out of the womb feet. :)

Love xxx

soğukkanlı çalışan olmak

Okulda öğrenmediği bazı şeyleri öğreniyor insan çalışırken (dikkat çalışırken staj yaparken değil).

1. İş hayatında etik diye bir şey yok. En etik çalıştığını düşündüğün insanlar bile öyle şeyler yapabiliyor ki inanamıyorsun. Ayrıca etik çalışmaya çalışan kişi de cezalandırılıyor bu da bir gerçek. Şener Şen'in "Namuslu"su bir gerçek yani hem de ne gerçek... Büyük şirketten küçük şirkete herkes para koparma peşinde. Şirketin büyüklüğüne göre kopardığı paralar da büyüyor tabii genelde. E bu durumda bir çalışan patronun tekerine çomak sokmaya çalışırsa o lanet olası dürüstlüğü(!) ile haliyle tü kaka olan bizim Namuslu oluyor. Burada bahsettiğim ben değilim hayır. Benim tekerlerle işim olmadı ama olanların neler yapması gerektiğini, onlardan ne beklendiğini gördüm ve üzüldüm.

2. İşverenin hiç bir şeyden anlaması gerekmez. Çünkü o işverendir ve ne kadar saçmalasa kimse ona ne saçmalıyorsun demez diyemez. Demeye cesaret eden çıkmaz mı hiç? Çıkar çıkmasına ama onun durumu da Namuslu'ya benzer.

3. İş hayatı iş arkadaşlarıyla çekilir hale gelir. İnsan beraber gülebildiği insanlarla her koşula katlanır (en azından bi dereceye kadar). Bu arkadaşların birebir benzer olmaları da gerekmez. Çok farklı insanlar çok eğlenceli ve huzurlu bir ortam oluşturabilirler.

Daha fazla yazardım ama şimdiden içim sıkıldı. Bazen insan hep öğrenci kalsam diyo işin doğrusu..