-evdeki bütün odaların ısık dügmesi (her ne denirse ona) odanın içindeyken, banyonunki neden degil?
-niye bir harf farklı ya da eksik söyleyince o küfür aynı etkiyi yapmaz? aynı tepkiyi almaz? (bkz. döt, mik, mına) ya da mesela a.k. diye kısaltma yapınca daha mı kibar olunmuş olur?
-diğer bir çok canlıda anne çocuklarını korur kollar ama gel gör ki lepistesler hangisi diye bile ayırmadan önünden geçeni hop diye yutar. niye ki? hanimiş lepistesin annelik içgüdüsü?
devam edicek..
The pale blue dot
You have two choices after seeing this video: you will either feel depressed or relieved. Either way you'll see yourself from another perspective and hopefully you'll see that this world is the only home we have for now so we must treat it gently.
It's not that long take a look at it.
It's not that long take a look at it.
The homeless almighty
Feel as the God Almighty and the desperate homeless guy on the street at the same time.
Feel powerful, able, creative, and eternal as God &
embrace your loneliness, nothingness and freedom as the homeless guy.
Feel powerful, able, creative, and eternal as God &
embrace your loneliness, nothingness and freedom as the homeless guy.
Bir zamanlar kendimce karaladıklarım
Günlerden bir gün gecenin bir yarısı kendimce karaladığım bir şeyleri buldum ve paylaşmak istedim...
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Geçmişe bakıp "şimdiki aklım olsaydı" diyorsan buna sevin. Bu geliştiğine işarettir. Geçmişe dair pişmanlık duymaktan dolayı üzülmeyi bırak ve gelişimini kutla.
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Kendini sev, kabullen, olumluya odaklan diyenleri çok umursama. Gerektiğinde kendinden nefret et ama bunu fark etmeyi bil çünkü farkında olursan bunu kullanabilirsin. İnsan kendinden hiç nefret etmemişse başkasının kusurlarına gözünü kör edemez. Başkalarının kusurları arasında boğulmaktansa kendinden nefret edip o halden kendini yeni bir bilinçle çıkarmak yeğdir.
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Nasıl hissetmek istiyorsan o senin olman gerekendir. Bu hisleri yakala ve artırmaya bak. Ancak böyle kendin olursun.
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Olmak istediğin gibi görünmeyi dene bazen. Kendini kandırırsın bir süre sonra bakarsın o olmuşsun.
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İnsanları sınıflandırmayı öngören milliyetçilik, ırkçılık gibi şeylere kendini kaptırma. Eğer kaptırırsan insanı "insan" olarak görememeye başlarsın.
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Geçmişe bakıp "şimdiki aklım olsaydı" diyorsan buna sevin. Bu geliştiğine işarettir. Geçmişe dair pişmanlık duymaktan dolayı üzülmeyi bırak ve gelişimini kutla.
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Kendini sev, kabullen, olumluya odaklan diyenleri çok umursama. Gerektiğinde kendinden nefret et ama bunu fark etmeyi bil çünkü farkında olursan bunu kullanabilirsin. İnsan kendinden hiç nefret etmemişse başkasının kusurlarına gözünü kör edemez. Başkalarının kusurları arasında boğulmaktansa kendinden nefret edip o halden kendini yeni bir bilinçle çıkarmak yeğdir.
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Nasıl hissetmek istiyorsan o senin olman gerekendir. Bu hisleri yakala ve artırmaya bak. Ancak böyle kendin olursun.
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Olmak istediğin gibi görünmeyi dene bazen. Kendini kandırırsın bir süre sonra bakarsın o olmuşsun.
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İnsanları sınıflandırmayı öngören milliyetçilik, ırkçılık gibi şeylere kendini kaptırma. Eğer kaptırırsan insanı "insan" olarak görememeye başlarsın.
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Cognitive errors/ False beliefs
In cognitive therapy, cognitive errors are of massive importance. They are simply the things to work on in all cases.
I had an example of that in the subway and would like to share.
I was in the train sitting on a seat that faces the corridor. In trains or buses people always keep still and stare at the floor to avoid eye contact with others and so did I (bcs when I don't, I usually catch some yahoos' eyes which is not pleasurable :) ).
Back to the story...
While I was staring at the floor, a man's feet got my attention. They were very well-cared for, almost like he had just had a pedicure. However, his feet were firty and he was wearing a pair of cheap plastic sandals. I got curious about the guy and looked at his face. I was fascinated by the good condition of his feet but just after I looked at his face he got annoyed. He moved to the next section.
Indeed I was thinking positively of him but he got it in a wrong way. It was so obvious. How would he thought otherwise? He had cheap sandals on and I stared at his feet. I believe he would be shocked if he knew what I was thinking. So he misjudged me by thinking that I was judging him badly.
In daily life we all make this kind of errors. We believe that we are so sure about what the others are thinking. However, the truth may be very very different than our guesses. Mind reading seems to me as the most common cognitive error.
In some cases, its consequences can be harder than it was here. He moved to another place and avoided the disturbance. But when it happens with the people you give importance to, you get hurt for no reason.
I hope you will think about this when you catch yourself mind reading next time. ;)
I had an example of that in the subway and would like to share.
I was in the train sitting on a seat that faces the corridor. In trains or buses people always keep still and stare at the floor to avoid eye contact with others and so did I (bcs when I don't, I usually catch some yahoos' eyes which is not pleasurable :) ).
Back to the story...
While I was staring at the floor, a man's feet got my attention. They were very well-cared for, almost like he had just had a pedicure. However, his feet were firty and he was wearing a pair of cheap plastic sandals. I got curious about the guy and looked at his face. I was fascinated by the good condition of his feet but just after I looked at his face he got annoyed. He moved to the next section.
In daily life we all make this kind of errors. We believe that we are so sure about what the others are thinking. However, the truth may be very very different than our guesses. Mind reading seems to me as the most common cognitive error.
In some cases, its consequences can be harder than it was here. He moved to another place and avoided the disturbance. But when it happens with the people you give importance to, you get hurt for no reason.
I hope you will think about this when you catch yourself mind reading next time. ;)
The "need" to be perfect
Recently everybody is trying to look their best, do their best, simply be the best in every single area. However it is not possible for someone to be perfect at everything.
This perception shapes our world. Women can't stand looking at themselves because they think they do not look good enough. Lips, nose, boobs... They all "need" to be perfect in order to be considered beautiful.
It seems that women are almost racing for being the hottest. Being hot and being desired by men seem to be crucial for being liked.
On the other hand, men are trying to be the most powerful and because money is seen as the source of power they are competing on being the richest.
Having good manners or intellectuality don't mean a thing in pop culture. Many people get lost in this insane world. They lose their values and after doing such stupid things to get ahead they realize that it didn't mean a thing.
In most cases that realization happens to be too late for some things. However there is still a chance for all of us to make peace with ourselves through understanding this nonsense imposition.
We can forgive ourselves and move on.
We can accept ourselves just the way we are.
And we can transform ourselves into something meaningful, something natural.
I hope we can all have peace with ourselves and with others.
and yes, I know what I am talking about and I know how hard it is. Still there is hope for us to use our inner strength and get over all.
Peace on you!
Cognitive therapy: Pros and Cons
I love cognitive therapy for some reasons. The most basic reason is that it works at the level of cognition first. I think cognitive level is the one that therapists should work on because it is so rational that our thoughts affect our behaviours through affecting our feelings. This is the main reasoning in cognitive therapy indeed.
So as Aaron Beck stated it first: our thoughts affect our feelings and they determine how we behave.
It may sound a little too simple and obvious at first but the truth is sometimes very simple. Automatic thoughts are unavoidable but not unchangeable. They can be altered through working on the core beliefs. This all sound very rational too me.
Also I like it being to the point. If you have a specific problem (like a specific phobia) it does wonders in reasonable time.
Of course it has some aspects I do not like much. It is too strict in theory and needs to be balanced in that way with a flexible attitude of the therapist.
I believe cognitive therapy is very powerful for specific problems but it would be better if used in an eclectic approach in some cases. Many people are suffering from specific things like having panic attacks or having a some kind of phobia. Cognitive therapy is just the right choice for those.
However, there are many people who wants to be in therapy because they want to know more of themselves without having a specific problem to be dealt with. At that point cognitive therapy isn't enough by itself. Therefore, I plan to use it with another type of therapy which is called Existential Therapy.
God only knows what will happen in the future but this is the plan for now. :)
Peace...
So as Aaron Beck stated it first: our thoughts affect our feelings and they determine how we behave.
It may sound a little too simple and obvious at first but the truth is sometimes very simple. Automatic thoughts are unavoidable but not unchangeable. They can be altered through working on the core beliefs. This all sound very rational too me.
Also I like it being to the point. If you have a specific problem (like a specific phobia) it does wonders in reasonable time.
Of course it has some aspects I do not like much. It is too strict in theory and needs to be balanced in that way with a flexible attitude of the therapist.
I believe cognitive therapy is very powerful for specific problems but it would be better if used in an eclectic approach in some cases. Many people are suffering from specific things like having panic attacks or having a some kind of phobia. Cognitive therapy is just the right choice for those.
However, there are many people who wants to be in therapy because they want to know more of themselves without having a specific problem to be dealt with. At that point cognitive therapy isn't enough by itself. Therefore, I plan to use it with another type of therapy which is called Existential Therapy.
God only knows what will happen in the future but this is the plan for now. :)
Peace...
Welcoming Ali Mert
I'm a fresh auntie. My nephew Ali Mert has just born at the end of January. As a young auntie I can't compare being a mom and being an aunt but I can talk about being an aunt.
It's like a rehearsal of being a mother and it's much better because I don't have to feed him and don't have to nurture him. Just loving him is enough for being a good aunt. That's a bliss. :)
Babies are too cute that you cannot hate them when you get real close. They may sound annoying from a distance but when you smell that baby smell it changes everything. I used to hate children and then it changed a bit with the projects and work that I've done. However, now I just can't get enough of my nephew. I think that's because this is the first time I've been this close to a baby for so long. His skin, his smell, his voice... all that make him irresistable! :)
The picture above depicts fresh out of the womb feet. :)
Love xxx
soğukkanlı çalışan olmak
Okulda öğrenmediği bazı şeyleri öğreniyor insan çalışırken (dikkat çalışırken staj yaparken değil).
1. İş hayatında etik diye bir şey yok. En etik çalıştığını düşündüğün insanlar bile öyle şeyler yapabiliyor ki inanamıyorsun. Ayrıca etik çalışmaya çalışan kişi de cezalandırılıyor bu da bir gerçek. Şener Şen'in "Namuslu"su bir gerçek yani hem de ne gerçek... Büyük şirketten küçük şirkete herkes para koparma peşinde. Şirketin büyüklüğüne göre kopardığı paralar da büyüyor tabii genelde. E bu durumda bir çalışan patronun tekerine çomak sokmaya çalışırsa o lanet olası dürüstlüğü(!) ile haliyle tü kaka olan bizim Namuslu oluyor. Burada bahsettiğim ben değilim hayır. Benim tekerlerle işim olmadı ama olanların neler yapması gerektiğini, onlardan ne beklendiğini gördüm ve üzüldüm.
2. İşverenin hiç bir şeyden anlaması gerekmez. Çünkü o işverendir ve ne kadar saçmalasa kimse ona ne saçmalıyorsun demez diyemez. Demeye cesaret eden çıkmaz mı hiç? Çıkar çıkmasına ama onun durumu da Namuslu'ya benzer.
3. İş hayatı iş arkadaşlarıyla çekilir hale gelir. İnsan beraber gülebildiği insanlarla her koşula katlanır (en azından bi dereceye kadar). Bu arkadaşların birebir benzer olmaları da gerekmez. Çok farklı insanlar çok eğlenceli ve huzurlu bir ortam oluşturabilirler.
Daha fazla yazardım ama şimdiden içim sıkıldı. Bazen insan hep öğrenci kalsam diyo işin doğrusu..
1. İş hayatında etik diye bir şey yok. En etik çalıştığını düşündüğün insanlar bile öyle şeyler yapabiliyor ki inanamıyorsun. Ayrıca etik çalışmaya çalışan kişi de cezalandırılıyor bu da bir gerçek. Şener Şen'in "Namuslu"su bir gerçek yani hem de ne gerçek... Büyük şirketten küçük şirkete herkes para koparma peşinde. Şirketin büyüklüğüne göre kopardığı paralar da büyüyor tabii genelde. E bu durumda bir çalışan patronun tekerine çomak sokmaya çalışırsa o lanet olası dürüstlüğü(!) ile haliyle tü kaka olan bizim Namuslu oluyor. Burada bahsettiğim ben değilim hayır. Benim tekerlerle işim olmadı ama olanların neler yapması gerektiğini, onlardan ne beklendiğini gördüm ve üzüldüm.
2. İşverenin hiç bir şeyden anlaması gerekmez. Çünkü o işverendir ve ne kadar saçmalasa kimse ona ne saçmalıyorsun demez diyemez. Demeye cesaret eden çıkmaz mı hiç? Çıkar çıkmasına ama onun durumu da Namuslu'ya benzer.
3. İş hayatı iş arkadaşlarıyla çekilir hale gelir. İnsan beraber gülebildiği insanlarla her koşula katlanır (en azından bi dereceye kadar). Bu arkadaşların birebir benzer olmaları da gerekmez. Çok farklı insanlar çok eğlenceli ve huzurlu bir ortam oluşturabilirler.
Daha fazla yazardım ama şimdiden içim sıkıldı. Bazen insan hep öğrenci kalsam diyo işin doğrusu..
kendime rağmen
İş başında psikolog olmak doktor hissizliği gerektiriyomuş ve bu da bende varmış meğer. Acıma duygusunu bastırmak bazen çok kolaymış. Hem sevip hem acımadan durabilirmiş insan. Kızmadan da, ağlamadan da.. Duyguları bastırmak kolaymış bir işe yarayacağını bilince. Gerçeği bazen role-play'inden daha kolay olurmuş bazı şeylerin.
Kolay mutlu olurmuşum ben meğer. İnsanlar her şeyi katlanılır hale getirebilirmiş hatta adını "katlanmak" bile koymazmışsın.
Her şey göründüğü gibi değilmiş.. Mutluluk bazen çok çok kolaymış. :)
Kolay mutlu olurmuşum ben meğer. İnsanlar her şeyi katlanılır hale getirebilirmiş hatta adını "katlanmak" bile koymazmışsın.
Her şey göründüğü gibi değilmiş.. Mutluluk bazen çok çok kolaymış. :)
Selcuk Sami Cingi
Solistliğini yaptığı grubu "Cingi" Hayal Kahvesi Bistro'da (beyoglu) cuma günleri sahne alıyor bu aralar. Taze taze izlemişken söylemeliyim ki sahne performansı gayet iyi.
Ayrıca kendisi Queen severler tarafından kaçırılmaması gereken biri. Queen coverları youtube'dan izlenebileceği gibi gayet şahane!!! En kısa zamanda canlı da dinleme hevesindeyim bu konseptteki konserlerini. Freddie Mercury'ye daha yakın bir performans gösteren kimse yoktur herhalde.
Bir de video ekliyim tam olsun...
Videoyu göremeyen Youtube madurları için bir de şöyle:
Selcuk Sami Cingi- Bohemian Rhapsody
Hmm şu da kişisel websitesi: http://www.sscingi.com/
Ayrıca kendisi Queen severler tarafından kaçırılmaması gereken biri. Queen coverları youtube'dan izlenebileceği gibi gayet şahane!!! En kısa zamanda canlı da dinleme hevesindeyim bu konseptteki konserlerini. Freddie Mercury'ye daha yakın bir performans gösteren kimse yoktur herhalde.
Bir de video ekliyim tam olsun...
Videoyu göremeyen Youtube madurları için bir de şöyle:
Selcuk Sami Cingi- Bohemian Rhapsody
Hmm şu da kişisel websitesi: http://www.sscingi.com/
Spanishdict.com
When I was studying Spanish in college I used to use this site very often for translation.
However, back then it didn't have a "learn" section which consists of video lessons, flashcards, recognition tests, writing, listening and speaking sections + message boards in which you can write to people from different countries anddddd + video chat section.
Fortunately a fav. person of mine, let me know about it and I got started working on my Spanish again. A language is forgotten very quickly. It's unbelievable.
So what I'm saying here is if you are interested in learning Spanish for FREE go check that site out.
www.spanishdict.com
PS. They are not paying me anything. I just personally liked the site very much. :)
2009 seems to be a good year! :)
This post doesn't have a subject or anything indeed. I just wanted to say that I am very close to self-actualize myself. :) Maslow here I go!
I feel like I'm able to do anything I want. I'm not going to get into the details but I can tell that studying psychology helps the person for sure.
I love my major and I'm glad I chose it in the first place.
I believe 2009 is going to be a great year as I was hoping it to be. :)
Let me send you a video to cheer you up as well.
It comes from the Beatles of course.
"This video shows a rare recording session in the Apple studios in 1968, when the Beatles were recording "Hey Jude". "
soooooo one two, one two three four!
2008-> hopefully, way much better 2009
2008 was not a really pleasant year for me. I'm still hopeful that things will turn out to be better this year but we'll see.
I wish this year will be full of joy for the people who really deserve the best, including the people I love.
I wish you all a peaceful, hopeful and joyful new year!
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